Transform Your Anger into Freedom & Peace

Transform Your Anger into Freedom & Peace:
Here’s How.

Oh, he’s got a bad temper!

How many times have you said that about someone? Or maybe someone has said that about you.

Dealing with anger is a huge issue for so many of us – especially men.

So many of us have a fixed mindset when it comes to certain things in our lives. And one of the ways that we can have a fixed mindset is when it comes to anger.

“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”

- Buddha

Transform Anger into Peace

The good news is that it is easy to transform anger into peace.

We must ask ourselves: are we willing to stop losing our temper?

When we lose our temper, we must be getting something in return.

What are you getting out of losing your temper?

  • Does it make you feel powerful?
  • Does it intimidate people?
  • Do you get attention? 

Whether you realize it or not, there is something that you are getting. 

Are you getting something on the outside? Are you getting reactions, responses, where you intimidate people, where people reach out to you, they feel sorry for you?

If you’re getting something from it and it’s unconscious, then you are more likely to keep doing it.

If the consequences are worse than what you are getting out of it,
see if you are ready to end anger in your life.

If you are ready to end the anger, then mindfulness is the answer. 

Check out this video:

Learn to be the witness and “the watcher” of your anger,
rather than being taken over by it.

This is how you end anger in your life. It takes practice, but anyone can do it who is willing.

“People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.”

- Thich Nhat Hanh

Quit Making Excuses for a Bad Temper

Often we’ll say:

  • I have a bad temper
  • I just lose it sometimes 
  • When somebody does this, I do that…

When we have a fixed mindset, we’re saying, “I'm just this way."

It is making an identity for yourself out of certain behavior. You are making an excuse – and you’re also cutting yourself off from the ability to change.

Angry? Here are two questions you want to ask yourself:

  • When it comes to reactivity, especially anger, is it something you really want to change? 
  • Has losing your temper caused damage in relationships or pain to you and the people around you?

You can change. You can be the ‘watcher’ of your anger.

"Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering."

- Yoda

It Can Be a Simple, Conscious Decision to Stop Anger.

I’ve worked with people where their anger and temper have gotten them in trouble with relationships, careers, and even the law.  

Others find themselves with no inner peace.

Do you see yourself in either of these two situations?

Wherever you are on that spectrum
I want to tell you from my own experience and from working with people -

it can be quite simple to stop anger.

Therapy is great, but you don’t necessarily have to go to years of treatment.

With the light of your consciousness as your guide, ask yourself:

  • If there is something I’m getting out of this (i.e., I’m getting attention by doing it), am I willing to let go of it if it means that I will have more peace and my relationships will be more harmonious?

If that’s the case, learn to watch the anger instead of being the anger.

With Practice, You Can Become More Mindful.

Watching is a spiritual or mindful practice. It’s very simple. With practice, you can become aware of your anger.

When your anger starts:

  • Be aware that the anger is there
  • Don’t let it take you over

It will try to become you – and you will start acting and thinking without knowing that you’re acting and thinking- and that’s when you lose your temper.

The way you avoid losing your temper is to be the watcher.

The anger will eventually become peace and consciousness. It will transform into a deeper and more authentic expression of you.

You won’t be living inside your mind; you will be living more as awareness, aware of what you’re doing, and living with greater freedom. 

That’s a hell of a lot better way to live. I can tell you that!

For more tips on everything from transcending anger to making prayer a more effective practice, subscribe to my YouTube channel right here.

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